Saturday, December 10, 2011

Pope on preparing for Christmas: ''We must let ourselves be illumined by the ray of Light that comes from Bethlehem''

VATICAN CITY, DEC. 5, 2011 - Here is a translation of the address Benedict XVI gave Sunday before and after praying the midday Angelus.

Dear brothers and sisters!

This Sunday marks the second stage of Advent. This period of the liturgical year highlights two figures who had a pre-eminent role in the preparation of Jesus Christ’s entering into history: the Virgin Mary and St. John the Baptist. Today’s text from the Gospel of Mark focuses precisely on the latter. In fact it describes the personality and mission of the Precursor of Christ (cf. Mark 1:2-8). Beginning with externals, John is presented as a very ascetic figure: he is clothed in camel skins, he eats locusts and wild honey and he lives in the wilderness of Judea (cf. Mark 1:6). Jesus himself, once contrasted him with those “who live in the palaces of kings” and “wear soft garments” (Matthew 11:8). John the Baptist’s style should recall all Christians to choose a sober lifestyle, especially in preparation for the feast of Christmas in which the Lord -- as St. Paul says -- “although he was rich, became poor for your sake, that you might become rich through his poverty” (2 Corinthians 8:9).

In regard to John’s mission, it was an extraordinary call to conversion: his baptism “is connected to an ardent call to a new way of thinking and acting, but above all with the proclamation of God’s judgment” (“Jesus of Nazareth,” Ignatius Press, 2008, p. 14) and of the imminent appearance of the Messiah, defined as “he who is greater than me” and who “will baptize in the Holy Spirit” (Mark 1:7, 8). John’s message thus goes further and deeper than a sober way of life: it calls us to interior change, beginning with the acknowledgement and confession of our sin. As we prepare ourselves for Christmas, it is important that we look within ourselves and we sincerely reflect on our life. We must let ourselves be illumined by the ray of light that comes from Bethlehem, the light of him who is “the greater one” and made himself small, the “strongest one” and made himself weak.

All four of the evangelists describe the preaching of John the Baptist making reference to a passage of the prophet Isaiah: “A voice cries out: in the wilderness prepare the way of the Lord. Make straight in the wasteland a highway for our God” (Isaiah 40:3). Mark also inserts a citation from another prophet, Malachi, which says: “Behold, I send my messenger before you: he will prepare your way” (Mark 1:2; cf. Malachi 3:1). These references to the scriptures of the Old Testament “speak of a saving intervention of God, who emerges from his hiddenness to judge and save; it is for this God that the door is to be opened and the way made ready” (“Jesus of Nazareth,” p. 15).

To the maternal intercession of Mary, the Virgin of expectation, let us entrust our path toward the Lord, while we continue our Advent itinerary of making our heart and our life ready for the coming of Emmanuel, God-with-us.

[Following the recitation of the Angelus the Holy Father addressed the faithful in various languages. In Italian he said:]

Dear brothers and sisters!

In the upcoming days in Geneva and in other cities the 50th anniversary of the institution of the International Organization for Migration, the 60th anniversary of the convention on the status of refugees and the 50th anniversary of the convention on the reduction of cases of statelessness will be marked. I entrust to the Lord those who must -- and often are forced -- to leave their own country or are deprived of citizenship. While I encourage solidarity with them, I pray for all those who expend themselves to protect and assist these brothers in these emergency situations, even exposing themselves to great toil and danger.

[Translation by Joseph G. Trabbic]
Source: Vietcatholic.net

Virginia Tech: Ross Truett Ashley named as gunman

Police were unable to say what Ashley's motive was for killing the officer
The gunman who shot a Virginia Tech police officer and then turned the gun on himself was a 22-year-old from a nearby university, police say.
Police and Virginia Tech named Deriek Crouse's killer as Ross Truett Ashley, a Radford University student.
Officials said Ashley had stolen a car on Wednesday from a real estate office in Radford, which was later found on the Virginia Tech campus.
The shooting triggered a campus lockdown.
Ashley, who was enrolled part-time at Radford, reportedly entered a real estate office with a handgun and demanded the keys to an employees' vehicle, police said.
The vehicle, a white Mercedes SUV, was found the next day on Virginia Tech's campus, but police did not specify at what time.
At around 12:15 EST (17:15 GMT) on Thursday, police say Ashley shot Crouse while the officer was sitting in his car, and fled on foot.
He changed clothes at a greenhouse on campus and left a jumper and woollen cap in a backpack behind.
Shortly after seeing a man walking through a nearby car park, an officer found Ashley dead at the park.
He had suffered a self-inflicted gunshot wound.
There was no information about how or why Ashley chose to stop running and turn the gun on himself.
Virginia Tech was the site of the worst US school shooting, in 2007, when a gunman killed 32 people and himself.
Missing links Police spokeswoman Corinne Geller says they are still trying to determine why officer Deriek Crouse was attacked.
Investigators have found no link between the gunman and Crouse, a married father of five and 39-year-old army veteran.
The university issued four separate alerts and kept students on campus in lockdown
  
Earlier on Friday, Ms Geller said a video camera inside the officer's vehicle captured footage of the suspect, and Virginia State Police confirmed that ballistics testing linked the officer's death and the suicide.
About 150 students gathered in a candlelight vigil on Thursday evening at the campus memorial for the shootings of four years ago.
An official vigil is planned on Friday night.
"Our hearts are broken again," university President Charles W Steger said on Thursday.
Deriek Crouse received an award in 2008 for his commitment to the department's efforts to deter drink-driving. He was trained as a crisis intervention officer and a defensive tactics instructor.
He was one of about 50 officers on the campus force and had served there for four years, joining about six months after the 2007 massacre.
Thirty-two people died in April that year when a 23-year-old South Korean, Seung-Hui Cho, went on a gun rampage before turning the weapon on himself.
His death came on the same day Virginia Tech appealed against a $55,000 (£35,200) fine imposed by the government for not reacting quickly enough to the 2007 massacre.
Source BBC

Religious freedom for China's future

By Bernardo Cervellera - Asianews
The arrest, kidnapping and self-immolation of Tibetan monks are only one of the many faces with which China reasserts its power over religion. Even Catholic priests suffer arrests, control, the disappearances of bishops, disdain for the Pope and the Holy See. Religious awareness is growing in Chinese society, but Beijing is trying to wipe it out. Yet, only religion can save China from implosion.
Rome (AsiaNews) – Once again news of more arrests of Tibetan monks has reached us, after the terrible images of young monks and nuns who set themselves on fire for freedom. The violence against the Tibetan communities is only one aspect of the machine that dominates religions in China and tries to destroy them. The arrests of Tibetan monks and nuns is coupled with the arrest of underground Church priests (at least ten according to AsiaNews sources), sentenced to the Laogai, forced labor or "reform through labor", for simply having held a spiritual retreat for university students, or having given last rites to an old woman in hospital.

Along with the seizure of Gedhun Choekyi Nyima, 21, the Panchen Lama chosen by the Dalai Lama - the youngest prisoner of conscience in the world – in the 90’s, there was also the detention of two Catholic bishops, Msgr. James Su Zhimin of Baoding, 80, and Msgr. Cosmas Shi Enxiang of Yixian, 88 years old, maybe the oldest prisoners of conscience, isolated in an unfamiliar place for refusing to renege on their bonds with the Pope.

The same can be said of the controls of Tibetan monasteries and faithful, in parallel with the control of the masses and gatherings of Catholics; the ban on all religious publications, the free diffusion of beliefs, on meetings between local and foreign faithful, on invitations to professors and teachers from abroad: all subject to the control of the Patriotic Association and the suspicion that any religious gathering is in itself a conspiracy against the nation: the Pope and the Dalai Lama are both seen as two foreign powers that want to undermine national unity.

In essence, there is one big difference between Catholics and Tibetans: Tibetan irredentism also has a territorial claim, independence or autonomy. Catholics do not have any territorial claims and live throughout China, choosing it as their home. Another difference is that Catholics have never been guilty of acts of violence against the Beijing government, while in these decades of Tibetan occupation, there have been attacks, riots, deaths, often caused by the Chinese police or army .

Despite these differences - indeed, precisely because of these differences – Beijing’s stronghold on religious freedom is even more incomprehensible, its controls and its contempt towards the pope and the Catholic faith. Only a few months ago - in June and July - there were two Episcopal ordinations in Leshan (Sichuan) and Shantou (Guangdong), carried out against the will of the Holy See, with bishops deliberately seized to force them to participate in an act contrary to their faith and bond of communion with the pope.

The point is that a dictatorship can not permit the luxury of allowing even the minimum amount of space slip beyond its control. For this reason, one’s relationship with God, with the pope, prayers to the Dalai Lama, the exhibition of his photos are considered subversive elements. China knows that religious freedom is a small path from which respect for the person and all human rights flows. Therefore, the liberalization of religion signifies undertaking political reforms inside and outside the party, which has promised more reforms, but has never kept those promises, preferring instead to support a rule of law of corruption, anarchy and tyranny.

For quite some time now China has been teetering on this very precipice – to reform or not – pulling back from the drop to dust off Maoist chants and Cultural Revolution-style repression. But it must act quickly: hundreds of millions of people in China, disappointed by the party injustices and suffocating materialism, are turning to religion. And many dissidents have discovered that the Christian faith - the God who loves man - is the secure foundation of human rights. If the leadership does not decide to make that jump soon, it will be forced to do so by the implosion towards which society is hurtling. Then, only religions, with their power of reconciliation, will be able to stop the destruction and violence.

Vietnamese blogger arrested, family demands to know where he is and how he is





 Police raid home of writer Huynh Ngoc Tuan, who spent 10 years in prison. His nephew arrested, fines against him and his two children announced. In November they were charged with "propaganda against the Party and State."
Hanoi (AsiaNews) - The Vietnamese police have targeted an entire family of bloggers,  arresting Huynh Ngoc Le,  nephew of the writer Huynh Ngoc Tuan, 48 (pictured), who has spent 10 years in prison, up to 2002 , who has been fined. Economic sanctions also against his two children.

According to Radio Free Asia, the episode took place last Friday at Tam Ky, in central Vietnam. Huynh Thuc Vy, Huynh Ngoc Tuan's daughter, a hundred officers arrived at 15, blocked the road and began a search of their home. "When I tried to record the scene, two women police officers twisted my arms behind me and two men took the camera. They hit me in the arms and legs. "

The officers arrested Huynh Ngoc Le, who has tried to defend his cousin, and announced fines of 100 million dong (about 3,500 euros) against the head of the family and 85 million (about 3 thousand euros) against his two children. The girl says she does not know the reason the fines, but remembers that in the previous police raid in November, they were charged with "propaganda against the Party and State."

What concerns them most, however, is primarily the fact that "we do not know how he is, or where my cousin is. My family is really worried. "

TOEIC IDOM: UNIT 4 - SALES AND MARKETING

Person A: Did you attend Sally’s presentation? 

Person B: No, I missed it, but I read her e-mail, 
Person A: It was great. No one expected her to be so plugged in to the customers’ needs. She really blew them away. I think the new product released will jumpstart our sales this quarter. It’s a long short, but I think we may reach the 5 million dollar mark. 
Person B: The new program is very user-friendly, which should increase sales. 
Person A: I agree. I think that the new management has a good game plan. First of  all, they have an excellent team. The new vice president has hired really good salespeople who interface well with the customers. She knows that good customer relationships are critical to our success. She’s also spending a lot on this new marketing campaign. She wants to go for broke.
Person B: She certainly works hard. She put in about 90 hours last week. Even if she does strike out and the campaign fails, I think she’ll go down swinging. I love her positive attitude. I hope she hits a home run. If she does, we’ll all benefit when the stock goes up. 
Person A: It’s possible. I think she is really dialed in to the customers. She seems to be able to anticipate the market, which helps her to stay ahead of the game. 
Person B: I agree. This could add up to a win-win situation for all of us.

1. Be plugged in/be dialed in: be connected or be knowledgeable about in a situation.

 If you want to know what’s really going on, ask Jim. He is really plugged in.
 If you want to be dialed in, you have to communicate with lots of people.

2. Blow someone away: greatly impress someone; exceed expectations.

 He set impossible goals, and then he achieved them. It blew his boss away.
 She blew them away when she made her presentation. They had no idea she would be so effective.

3. Jumpstart: so something to get an activity or institution working better or faster.

 Let’s jumpstart this project. It is our first priority.
 The economy was lagging, so the government tried to jumpstart it by lowering the interest rates.

4. A long shot: a very difficult goal or a goal that one does not expect to achieve

 Getting into that university is a long shot for him because he doesn’t have great grades.
 Reaching our sales goals in this quarter is a long shot because of the economy.

5. Be user-friendly: be easy to use

 This program is very user-friendly. It seems very logical.
 When a program is user-friendly, I don’t need to read the manual.

6. A game plan: a strategy or an organized approach to achieve a goal

 To get this done, we’ll need a really good game plan.
 We need to come up with a game plan to meet our goals.

7. Interface with someone/something: communicate or interact with someone or something.

 Her new job requires her to interface with the customers every day.
 The network here no longer interfaces well with the one overseas.

8. Go for broke: attempt to reach a very high goal; gamble everything

 He risked everything on the new venture. He went for broke.
 If we go for broke on this one, and it doesn’t work, we’ll be back to square one.

9. Strike out: fail or make a big mistake

 He struck out with the big account. They decided not to purchase the product.
 I don’t want to strike out on this project. I want it to be a success.

10. Go down swinging: keep trying until the end; never give it up

 He didn’t win the account, but he went down swinging. I like that guy.
 I’d rather go down swinging than not try at all.

11. Hit a home run: to be very successful

 That company really hit a home run with their new technology. Everyone is using it now.
 She has started three companies, and they’ve all been very successful. She always hits home run.

12. Ahead of the game: prepared for what’s coming; ahead of schedule

 Next month is the end of the quarter. I have to get my work finished early so I can get ahead of the game.
 Our new product should help our company get ahead of the game.

13. Add up: make sense; result in something

 It doesn’t add up. He’s losing money, but he’s still hiring new people.
 It all adds up to trouble. Changing the design and rushing the products to market  will create more problems.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Hanoi: attacks continue against Thai Ha parish

Local authorities, hooligans and police intensify attacks, threats and acts of violence against Catholic religious and laity trying to defend their parish from unlawful dispossession. Dozens of people have been arrested. Prayers are being said around the world for Thai Ha.
a local uniformed civil defence team member entered the building
shouting and proffering threats against the celebrating priest

Hanoi (AsiaNews) – In the past two weeks, Vietnamese Catholics both at home and abroad have prayed non-stop for Thai Ha parish, northern Vietnam. Incredibly, 600 police and local government officials have surrounded the Redemptorist parish church, seizing its land. Redemptorist priests and religious were mistreated and threatened, but parishioners, including young people, are still gathering at Thai Ha to pray to God and Our Mother of Perpetual Help.

Communist Party officials broke the cross in Dong Chiem. They poured dirty oil on the statue of Our Mother of Perpetual Help in Thai Ha parish, broke into a church courtyard and desecrated the Eucharist in Hanoi Cathedral. In Thai Ha church, more than a hundred hooligans attacked the Redemptorists and threatened to kill them.

Local authorities, which are supposed to protect religious freedom, instead violated it. Wherever Communism and atheistic materialism rule in Vietnam, religion is oppressed.

“Many people have endured the injustice of prison without trial,” Paul Hung, of Thai Ha parish, told AsiaNews. “In the city of Hanoi, local authorities are using thugs and police agents to crack down and arrest the faithful, patriots like Fr Nguyen Van Ly, but also some 20 bloggers and 15 young Catholics.”

For many members of Thai Ha parish, the authorities “are engaged in dialogue with Redemptorist priests in Thai Ha, whilst using hooligans to devastate and destroy the parish. They use plainclothes police to break the law. They rely on hooligans to attack the faithful and the clergy so as to avoid criticism from Human Rights Watch and other human rights groups.”

Speaking to AsiaNews on ‘Teachers’ Day’ (20 November), Fr Nguyen said, “Once the educational system is built on atheistic materialism, the regime becomes egocentric and deceitful towards the people.”

“We need prayers for ourselves and for the young generation to protect us from atheistic materialism,” said Bishop Hoang Duc Oanh.

In reference to education today, he said, “Let us pray for a just educational system, one that can prepare people to be good in society. Let us pray for a harmonious development based on justice and love as Jesus taught us.”

Recently, some 500 Vietnamese-Australians organised a prayer vigil in Melbourne for Thai Ha parish and their homeland. “We have a duty to speak for those who have no voice,” said Bishop Vincent Nguyen Van Long.

Urging the gathering to pray for those treated unjustly, he said, “Our concern is for our brothers and sisters, who are victims of deceit. Let us raise our voice to demand the protection of justice and the public interest of the Vietnamese people.”

Sadly, such solidarity towards the Vietnamese Church is hard to come by in other parts of the world.
From Vietcatholic news

English Idoms - Unit 3: Challenges/Difficulties

I’m feeling very frustrated. I have so much work to do, and I’m still waiting for tech support to upgrade my system to improve the processing speed. I feel like I’m doing the job of three people. I tried multi-tasking, but even when I talk on the phone and read and answer my e-mail at the same time, I can’t get everything done. I’m also having problems with my staff. I have one person who always makes waves and causes arguments with the rest of the staff. Whenever there’s a bottleneck and work builds up so that we fall behind schedule, she’s usually responsible. Our budget has been cut, so I have to find ways to save money; this means I have to cut corners on hiring, so I can’t bring on any new people. I just have to make do with the current team. I was talking with Joe, the other supervisor, during a break. He’s in the same boat. He says his job has become a pain in the neck. His boss is always in his face about something. We both feel like we’re between a rock and a hard place. My wife is going to have a baby, so I need to have a steady income. Joe is about 25 years older than I am. He was planning to retire next year, but he put all his eggs in one basket and invested in a high-tech stock that was supposed to make him a million dollars. Then the market went south and now he’s really up a creek. He doesn’t want to tell his wife about his bad investment, so now he has to keep working for a lot longer than he expected.

1. Upgrade: improve, update, or change for the better

 He needs to upgrade his job skills so he’ll be more employable.
 I upgraded my computer system so I could work better.

2. Multi-tasking: doing more than one thing at the same time.

I can’t keep up with my work. I need to try multi-tasking so I can get everything done.
He got a ticket for multi-tasking while he was driving. He was talking on the car phone and looking up another phone number while he was at the wheel.

3. Make waves: to cause troubles or problems

 I don’t want him on my team because he always makes waves and upsets the others.
 She made waves wherever she went, so she didn’t usually stay long in one company.

4. A bottleneck: a person or place that stops or slows the easy flow of ideas or products

 There’s a bottleneck in manufacturing at the third station on the assembly line.
 We need to make some changes in the process there. That department is always a bottleneck for us when we try to get anything done quickly. They always delay the process.

5. Cut corners: save money or time by substituting inferior materials or not carrying out all the required steps.

 The company cut corners on the new product by using a less expensive part in the design.
 We have to find a way to cut corners on this project because we’ve already gone over our budget.

6. Make do: complete a task using only the available supplies or people

 We don’t have enough yellow paper, so we’ll have to make do with white.
 She ran out of butter, so she made do with oil for the recipes.

7. Be in the same boat: be in the same situation as someone else

 They are both engineers who worked for start-up companies and then left to start their own companies. They are in the same boat.
 Both women have just had their first babies. They are in the same boat.

8. A pain in the neck: a difficult problem or person

 This project has had problems from the beginning. It’s a pain in the neck.
 I left that job because it was a pain in the neck.

9. Be in someone’s face: make someone uncomfortable, be confrontational

 That salesman was really in my face. I didn’t like him. He stood very close and was very persistent.
 She’s a difficult person to work with because she is always in your face. She likes to argue.

10. Be between a rock and a hard place: be a difficult position, unable to escape.

 She’s caught between a rock and a hard place. She needs to invest in research and development to be competitive, but she has to spend all the money just to keep the company going.
 He’s between a rock and a hard place. If he does what his mother wants, his wife will be angry. If he does what his wife wants, his mother will be angry.

11. Put all one’s eggs in one basket: put all one’s money or energy in one place

 Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. It’s less risky to have more than one investment.
 She put all her eggs in one basket, so when the price of gold dropped, she lost everything.

12. The market goes south: the value goes down/declines

 We were doing well with our investments for retirement until the market went south. Now, we’re all worried.
 That country was exporting coffee for a good price, but then the marker went south, and their economy is really hurting now.

13. Be up a creek (without a paddle): be in a difficult situation

If the programmer leaves without giving us any notice, we’ll be up a creek without a paddle.
Our child-care provider quit yesterday, and we are really up a creek trying to work with our new twins.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

English Idoms - Unit 2: MEETING WORK DEADLINES

We have a lot on our plate. For example, we’ve gotten three new projects just this week, and I don’t now if we have the bandwidth to finish the work on time. There’s only one experienced engineer who really knows the ropes. We have two new employees who catch on quickly, but this is a very heavy schedule. We need to do a dry run with the prototype before we release the software to the customer. It’s critical that we have enough time to troubleshoot problems in this program and then get the bugs out before the release. The marketing department is already advertising this software as plug and play, so it has to be trouble free an very easy to install. We can probably finish the first job by next Friday, but I think the next one will be down to the wire because we only have three days after that to finish it. I gave Don a heads up and told him to be ready to put in some overtime for the next several days. We’ll need a few days off after it’s over so no one gets burned out.
1. On one’s plate: [something that is] waiting to be done.

 We have enough on our plate right now. We shouldn’t take on more projects right now.
 She has too much on her plate. She needs to assign some of the work to another person.

2. Have the bandwidth: have the ability or capacity to handle the work

 Tech support is too busy. They don’t have the bandwidth to handle the calls.
 The company is growing too fast. I’m not sure they have the bandwidth to manage the changes.

3. Know the ropes: be familiar with job processes, procedures, or people

 We asked the new employee to talk to José because he knows the ropes and can show him around the plant.
She knew the ropes, so she had to trouble getting the work done.

4. Catch on: quickly and easily learn or understand something

 Let’s put him in charge of the new process because he catches on quickly.
 They promoted her after only three months because she had caught on so quickly.

5. A dry run: a rehearsal or practice session

 We should test this prototype first. We need a dry run before we go into production.
 I’d like to do a dry run with this speech before I present it to the whole company.

6. Troubleshoot something: identify the problems in a program or process

 We hired her to troubleshoot the problems in the process. She’ll identify them, and then the team will correct them.
We have to troubleshoot the problems before we find solutions.

7. Get the bugs out: fix any problems in software programs

 We have to get the bugs out of this new program before the release date.
 This new software engineer can get the bugs out faster than anyone on the team.

8. Plug and play: easy to install and easy to use

 I’ll be able to have this new program up and running in five minute. It’s plug and play.
 I like their products because they are so easy to use. Everything they made is plug and play.

9. Down to the wire: close to the deadline

 We have to work overtime because we’re down to the wire on this project.
 He doesn’t plan his work well, so he always has to work down to the wire.

10. Heads up: a warning that a change or new procedure is coming

 Our boss gave us a heads up about the change in the procedure.
 I’d like a heads up on any design changes so I can make adjustments.

11. Be burned out: to feel very tired and not want to continue an activity

 She was burned out. She had worked with children for many years and had lost her enthusiasm for the work.
 She decided to take a vacation because she was burned out from working seven days a week.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Vietnam and the Philippines united by nature

Halong Bay consists of more than 3,000 limestone islands rising spectacularly from the ocean
Vietnam's Halong Bay consists of more than 3,000 limestone islands rising spectacularly from the ocean
The Philippines and Vietnam have agreed to support each other in the New7Wonders of Nature campaign. The decision was reached at the East Asia Inter-Regional Tourism Forum (Eatof) standing committee meeting yesterday in Cebu City.
The commitment to support the Puerto Princesa Subterranean River in the Philippines and Vietnam’s Halong Bay was part of the joint declaration of the Eatof, which was presented at the Cebu International Convention Center.
Cebu Vice Governor Agnes Magpale, who presided over the meeting, said it does not matter how the two destinations will be ranked, provided they gain enough support to be included in the New7Wonders of Nature.
Eatof seeks to promote tourism in 12 Asian provinces, including Cebu and Quang Ninh Province in Vietnam, where Halong Bay is located. Vu Thi Thu Thuy, vice chairperson of the Provincial People’s Committee in Vietnam, said there is no contest between Halong and the Subterranean River as Eatof will support both.
“It’s a win-win game for the strength of Eatof,” Thuy said.
The Puerto Princesa Subterranean River  winds through a cave before flowing into the South China Sea
The Puerto Princesa Subterranean River winds through a cave before flowing into the South China Sea 
Source: http://news.n7w.com

English Idoms in Writing

English for everybody
UNIT 1. NEGOTIATIONS

         We met with representatives from the other company for over 4 hours yesterday. Jerry didn't waste any time. He took the bull by the horns and gave them our list of concerns right away. Then he asked for a list of their concerns and put both lists on the white board, so he could be sure we were all on the same page. He told the group that we were going to have to think out of the box and suggest creative solutions. We talked for over an hour. Jerry likes to shoot from the hip, which makes some people uncomfortable because he's very direct. Because we have such different corporate cultures, I didn’t think the two groups would ever see eye to eye on the goals. However,during the second hour, Jerry said he was willing to bend over backwards and work very hard to address their concerns. I think that impressed them. He talked about the advantages of the deal, and then he really laid it on the line and left the next move up to them. At one point, I thought the other company might back out and leave the table, but Jerry kept the discussion going. There was a lot of give and take; they finally met us halfway, and we cut the deal over dinner that night. I was surprised that our relationship as competitors didn’t get in the way. Jerry was able to convince them to look at those old conflicts as water under the bridge. He got them to focus on the future, and the result was clearly a win-win situation for both companies.

1. Take the bull by the horns: directly confront a problem or challenge.
 He decided to take the bull by the horns and talk to the president about the problem.
 She took the bull by the horns and asked her boss for a raise.
2. Be on the same page: have the same understanding about the situation or information.
 I want to make sure we share the same expectations. We need to be on the same page before I give you the money to do the work.
 I need to meet with Jim before the negotiations so we are on the same page when we meet with the other company.
3. Think out of the box: be creative or non-traditional; approach a situation or problem in a new way.
 Nothing we’ve tried so far has worked. We need to ask Gordon for his ideas
because he thinks out of the box.
 Let’s brainstorm some ideas hers. Concentrate on some new and different
solutions. We need to think out of the box.

4. Shoot from the hip: be very direct; express ideas without planning.
 She likes to shoot from the hip, but honestly makes people angry sometimes.
 You usually know what he is thinking because he shoots from the hip.
5. See eye to eye: to agree about or have the same perspective on [something]
 I’d like her to be on my team. We see eye to eye most of the time.
 We haven’t been able to agree. We don’t see eye to eye on this.
6. Bend over backwards: try very hard to please someone or to do something.
 She bent over backwards to try and make him happy, but he was never satisfied.
 I want you to bend over backwards for this customer. It’s a very important account.
7. Lay it on the line: be very direct or frank
 I laid it on the line. I told him I didn’t love him anymore.
 We’re tired of all the careful words. Just lay it on the line for us.

8. Back out: change or cancel an agreement or an arrangement
The investors backed out of the contract at the last minute, so we couldn’t go ahead with the building.
 I don’t trust her. She often backs out at the last minute.
9. Give and take: cooperation or compromise
 It took a lot of give and take, but I think we finally reached an agreement that satisfied everyone.
 He was used to working alone. In his new job, he had to learn to participate in the give and take.

10. Meet someone halfway: compromise
 If you can meet me halfway, I think we can reach an agreement.
 They met us halfway, so that we could make a deal that worked for all of us.

11. Cut the/a deal: reach an agreement
 They cut the deal over lunch.
 We hope to cut a deal by Friday.

12. Water under the bridge: a part issue or problem that is no longer a concern
 Don’t worry about that mistake. It’s water under the bridge.
 Let’s not focus on an old disagreement. We need to move forward. Those problems are just water under the bridge.

13. A win-win situation: a situation where everyone involved benefits or wins.

 The negotiations went well. We both got what we wanted most. It was a win-win situation.
 I enjoy working with her. We both contribute something useful. It’s a win-win situation.